Do you trust your intuition?

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Do you trust your intuition? Your common sense? Your gut feeling?

For long time, I didn’t. And so many times I told myself: “I knew this was going to happen”. Why did I allow it to happen then? I didn’t trust my intuition, my gut feeling.

Years ago I was told to trust my intuition, to learn to listen to myself, to trust when something didn’t feel right. It was a long process, but slowly, I stared accepting and developing it.

When I started doing it, things worked much better for me. Now, I trust the universe, I trust my intuition, I make choices and take responsibility. Because whatever happens in my life, it’s my responsibility. I listen to others, I read, I learn new things – but for things to work our for me, they need to make sense to me.

What’s your personal experience with intuition?

With lots of love,

Laia x

 

My daily butterfly affirmations

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Today I was going to write about my new “challenge” of working from home but I came across this wonderful Butterfly Affirmation and decided to change topics.

Positivity is a must for me.

Positive self-talk and thinking is very important to keep a good mindset. Even when knowing this, we sometimes let our thoughts switch our mood, change our attitude, etc. My mum always tells me: “Laia, remember that you are not your thoughts”. So if we are not our thoughts, what are we? Well, this is something many people asks themselves and I think the answer is deep inside. I read somewhere in the Internet: “you are not your thoughts or words; you are the place where your thoughts and words come from. You are the place where this question “who am I?” comes from.” Leaving you here for some self-reflection…

So, our thoughts are not real then – everything going on in my mind (thoughts, feelings, sensations and everything I am aware of) is in fact happening only in my private internal world. What makes a thought feel real is the attention we bring to it. Sometimes, we focus on a thought so much that we make it into a solid thing and relate to it as if it is an event happening in the world somewhere.

What do you think would happen if we monitor our thoughts so we stop our negative ones and we empower our positive ones? When we manage to “re-direct” our thoughts towards a positive path (via meditation, awareness or any other technique), I can assure you your inner world changes. Mine did.

That’s the reason why I always try to check on my positive attitude during the day, do my moment of gratitude in the morning and night, do my positive affirmations every morning – and now, read my butterfly affirmations every day. Today I got this one: Today everything is unfolding perfectly, accordingly to a greater plan. It made my day. Because positivity boosts have the power to keep you on track and happy with your inner self, no matter what happens in the outside.

I know, it’s easier said than done but hey, no one said that it was going to be easy! So just keep trying.

How can we practice positivity and optimism every day? Here’s some ideas:

  • Guiding your energy through positive thinking so you attract positive energy.
  • Connect with yourself on your own way. For me is meditation or through my inner reflections, for example.
  • Practice visualisation. I do this every morning – visualising where you want to be is very powerful. Remember – visualisation is not enough to make things happen though, you then need to take action and the steps towards what you want to achieve.
  • Slow down in order to move forward. Slowing down is a choice that can lead to greater appreciation for life and a greater level of happiness. It’s quite hard in the current western world but just trying it can make a huge change.
  • Read and watch books and movies with inspiring stories. Also, take the time to journal (very good to release stress) and write down your positive affirmations.
  • Be kind to yourself and practice love every day, towards yourself and others.
  • Practice gratitude and focus on the positive.

I encourage you to practice positivity and optimism, to surround yourself of people who empowers you and has plenty of good energy/vibes, to monitor your thoughts to make sure they don’t lead you in the wrong way.

With lots of love,

Laia

Qualities that will make you a winner

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“Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.” – Chris Grosser

When it comes to life (and business) we sometimes don’t understand why some people are successful and others aren’t (we aren’t). We compare, blame, and even associate luck to our success or failures.

For long time I felt that I had lots of thing to offer, a huge potential inside me that I wasn’t using. Therefore, I was feeling unfulfilled. I used to blame others, my past experiences, my bad luck, etc. I was focusing on the negatives instead of the positives – and let me remind you that all experiences have their positives: my past experiences took me where I am today, helped me to grow every day, as a person and as a professional. We ALL have the potential to do whatever we want, this means that we all can make our dreams happen. However, sitting on our couch watching TV is not going to make a shift. We need to take control of our life and take action for it to happen. We need to have a clear WHY, a purpose, that drives us towards our goals. And we need to want to make the change.

We all have what we need to succeed inside. We do have to develop it in order to get there though. We do have to be willing to grow as a person in order to develop ourselves into a winner, in life and business.

Nothing worthwhile is easy – isn’t it? Have you ever wondered what is required to take yourself to the next level? I actually have. And what I realised is that the starting point is making a choice. Success is a choice. Winning is a choice. If you want to separate yourself from the rest, you just have to make choice.

I’m going to share with you three qualities I believe can take you wherever you want to go:

  • Believe: believe in yourself, in what you are doing and why you are doing it. Have a crystal clear WHY and believe that you can do whatever it takes for the right reasons.
  • Commitment: be committed to what you do no matter what. Do what it needs to be done, even when you don’t feel like to. Be discipline with your actions, with your goals, with your MINDSET and ownership, take responsibility. Be committed and discipline in gratitude and practice it every day.
  • Attitude: have an excellent attitude and attract excellent things. Make sure you set your attitude for the day every morning and check on it along the day.

Some more I’ve been taken through recently that I do believe play an important role in our success are:

  • Be passionate and fall in love with what you do every day.
  • Make a difference in other people’s lives.
  • Respect: yourself, those who surround you and what you have in front of you.
  • Practice no matter how good you are at something and put things on perspective.
  • Have the courage to give 100% even when things feel off.
  • Leadership: know your why and empower others, inspire those who surround you.
  • Be focused, take ownership and responsibility – no excuses.
  • Bounce back: be resilient, let things go and move forward.
  • Visualisation: visualise your future before it happens and take action to make it occurs.

I guess we already know most of those things, but sometimes we need to remind ourselves what requires to build the life we truly desire and deserve. Don’t be scared to dream big. Do it and take the required steps to make it happen – take action! Leave your comfort zone and find the way. As the say goes: “when there is a will, there is a way”.

So, what’s your dream? And how are you going to make it a reality?

Treat every single day with gratitude and love!

With lots of love,

Laia

Friday reflections…

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I’m getting married tomorrow. “Are you nervous? Do you still have time to do other stuff than worrying about the wedding?! Are you excited?”. These are some of the frequent questions I’ve heard for the last two weeks, by text or in person, from my family and closest friends. My response: “I’m not nervous. I’m excited. Yes – I do have time to do lots of other stuff besides wedding stuff”. Why do I say this? Because it seems that it’s not normal to be calm and content before your wedding so you can enjoy it. Actually, the good news is that you can! (Although I guess that tomorrow I’ll get a little bit of stomach ticking…)

Well, I might be the exception to the rule, but I’m happy, calm, relaxed, not nervous at all, and I’ve highly enjoyed organising it since Lucas and I decided that we were only going to do a very simple and casual wedding. Most arguments finished when we decided to have an unpretentious wedding. Before that -when in my head I had this idea of a big Spanish princess wedding with lots of family and friends- the wedding was going to be trouble. We had arguments since day one because we couldn’t agree on the basics. We just wanted different things. I wanted my princess wedding and Lucas wanted a very casual one. When we decided to make it simple (overcoming all my resistance) and mirror who we are, not what’s expected from us, it was different. Actually, it’s been the easiest event I’ve ever organised in my career in events management and marketing! Can you believe it?!

Why I’m telling you this? Because of the internal shift that had to happen for me to see this and feel this way. The swing towards what’s important and what’s not… While initially my focus was others and what was culturally and socially correct, now my priority is us. When the focus shifted to us, what we really wanted and what was important for US, it was easy! I just didn’t want to spend a full year of preparation having lots of arguments because we couldn’t agree on the basics. Not to mention the high cost that a traditional wedding was going to have. It wasn’t going to work.

You might wonder how I did the shift. Well, as most important things in life, I had a ‘wake-up call’ through couple of very close family members getting very sick. Suddenly, my perspective changed. My priorities changed. Not only personally, also professionally. I started asking myself questions such as:

  • What’s important for me?
  • Am I following my heart of what’s been taught to me?
  • How am I living my life? Am I making the right choices?
  • Are my decisions worth the sacrifices involved?
  • What’s more important: getting good money in a stressful job that doesn’t full fill you or seeking something else that gives you purpose (even if the money isn’t good to start with)?
  • Who am I surrounded with? Are they positive or negative influence for me?
  • What are those things I really want to invest my time with?
  • Who are those people that empower me to move forward and upwards in my journey?

And so on. Because our daily choices (the small ones) determine the life we have and our success. So, through being aware and conscious of how I want to live, everything started falling into place. My partner (husband to be soon) was so good and helped a lot when initially I was stressed and with no energy due to my work and sadness for my family not being able to make it here for the big day – he kicked off all the planning. Then, slowly, I started getting more involved and loved jumping fully on board. Now, one day to go and we only need to sort couple of small things that always happen the day before which means that I can relax, feel content and do lots of other stuff. I feel proud of myself and proud of us as a couple for not letting the stress to get me/us.

Proud of myself because I managed to overcome the barrier of what’s socially acceptable and organise a low cost wedding, casual and lovely with those people who matter to us so we can then travel to Spain and Argentina to celebrate there with our wider family.

Proud of us because we have handled it pretty well – at least if I compare it with other people who tell me that they spent the full year of preparation arguing for wedding stuff. Also, because during the last few weeks we have had people visiting us before the wedding; we have been sorting lots of wedding stuff; Lucas has been working so hard on his business; I’ve also been working on my personal and professional projects. All these things had an impact on us and our relationship with little time left for us. But after all, we are handling it the best we can with contentment.

I just wanted to share this story with you as I believe it’s very important how we manage our emotions and how feel towards things in order to have this sense of contentment in anything we do. Because experience has taught me that being stressed and ‘upset’ constantly for what others do or what you do (but it’s not what you wanted) is not healthy. You need to start by respecting yourself. By being gentle towards your body and soul, your most precious assets. Sometimes we are our worst enemies, or judges – don’t judge yourself (nor others). Always do your best, be impeccable with your words, don’t take anything personally and don’t make assumptions. That’s a great formula to live a life full of love, happiness and contentment.

With lots of love,

Laia x