Friday reflections: Find what works for you

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Just do what works for you, because there will always be someone who think differently… – Michelle Obama

Do you know what works and what doesn’t work for you? If you do, just do it.

Going through my personal development journey I read, listen to audios, talk to people, etc. to enrich myself and learn from others. I love learning different tools, techniques, etc. to improve every day, for myself and those who surround me. The issue is that I’m the perfectionist type (I know, never aim for perfection, aim for excellence! It is work in progress). I learn something new that it works for others, and if I think that it’d benefit me, I strictly implement it in my life.

I thought that was ok as you are told that consistency and discipline are key to success, so I wasn’t going to do less. What I’ve learnt recently is that not everything works for you and that sticking to things because you “have to” isn’t always right. Flexibility can also be a great thing to incorporate in your life.

I’m 28 weeks pregnant and I feel better than ever! I feel calm, relax, with huge inner peace. It has a great positive impact in my life: myself, my relationships, how I deal with things, my growing baby and so on. Reflecting on what has changed since months ago, I realised that the reason why I feel this way is because I’ve allowed myself to be flexible: stop being so tough on myself, change my morning routines and do what I feel like doing.

I was kind of obsessed with my morning routines actually: get up very early, meditate, read a personal development book for 30 minutes, review your goals, visualise your dreams – all before going to work. All of this is great but when you start doing it because you have to, not because you want to, you stop enjoying it along the way.

Because of my pregnancy, I’m slightly more tired and sometimes I don’t have a good night sleep. So I decided that for my last few months of pregnancy I was going to allow myself to rest and enjoy instead of being tired and stressed for the amount of things that I always had in my to do list. So I started getting up 30 minutes or an hour later, replacing my meditation for some mindful breathing while in bed or while doing few minutes of yoga exercises, leaving my reading for another moment of the day (normally in the evening), etc. And voila, I started enjoying more my mornings which was a great start of the day! I still like having my moment of gratitude in the morning (and night) where I can set my mindset and my intention for the day, but don’t feel pressured if one morning I skip it because I’m in a rush – I can do that in the car on my way to work!

I’ve found another way to do things, a way that works beautifully well for me. Leaving my perfect and strict being and moving towards flexibility has just let me enjoy everything else in a healthier way. Of course I want to keep growing, having healthy routines and get better every day, but sometimes you just have to be gentle to yourself and let you enjoy the little things. At least, it worked for me.

Would you like to share what works for you?

With lots of love,

Laia x

Keep the momentum going

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“One way to keep momentum going is to have constantly greater goals.” – Michael Korda

Momentum. During the last few months I’ve heard this word quite a bit, but it was just a word.

I recently read this quote from Tony Robbins, who talks quite a bit about momentum. “Success comes from taking the initiative and following up… persisting… eloquently expressing the depth of your love. What simple action could you take today to produce a new momentum toward success in your life?”. While reading the quote I couldn’t understand why, if I was doing everything I had to be doing, momentum wasn’t showing. I was impatient and tough to myself. At that moment I couldn’t see that all I had to be doing is being patient, keep working consistently and steadily, step by step, doing my best and letting things flow. And momentum arrived and it felt AWESOME!

Let’s stop and have a look at what momentum means. The Cambridge Dictionary defines momentum as “the force that keeps an object moving or keeps an event developing after it has started: once you push it, it keeps going under its own momentum”. You can think of momentum as a force unwilling to stop. It’s a word commonly used term in sports – they often talk of a team in a momentum to refer to a team on a winning streak that is seemingly unstoppable.

How many times you work hard and don’t see results straight away and feel discouraged? Has this happened to you? It has definitely happened to me. But – If you stop moving forward discouraged by the lack of momentum, if you stop summing up small (and big) efforts repeated day in and day out, momentum is not going to happen. However, if you are consistent, look for constant improvement and take action: it will happen! We just need to be patient and carry one (something I’m really bad at, actually! Work in progress though).

When we start a new project, personal or professional, we put a lot of energy on it. And let’s be real, we all look forward for the results and momentum to come because when momentum starts, things keep rolling. The greater the momentum is, the harder it is to stop it.

Momentum builds when we ensure that everything goes as planned, that things that need to happen are happening, that we are producing results and our motivation grows and grows. When we have it in business, everything seems to move forward: we get things done, stuff flows and results are showing. And then the magic happens: you look better than you are and you accomplish a lot – because you believe you can do it!

I’d like to share with you my personal experience. I started my business very slowly, I was working full time at the time, under a lot of pressure and stress and had no energy left after my 8 (or more) hours at the office. I did as much as I could, but things were slow. I demanded too much to myself. Consistency was hard due my lack of time and energy, but what was really stopping me was my lack of self-believe. I just didn’t believe I could do it – I was exhausted. I used to say: “I can do it”. But I didn’t really believe it.

Because I’m stubborn and I don’t give up easily, I decided to carry on working and learning till I got my initial inversion back. I wanted to proof myself I could do it so I went to training sessions, conferences, etc. and the shift happened. I started believing in myself. I started believing more strongly in the company, the industry and the business opportunity. And I also started taking action and doing everything I was told I had to do in order to start moving forward. And suddenly momentum came and I started filling my calendar with activity.

It’s still early days and keep working hard. I can see things moving forward. I observe how stuff happen when you consistently work, in your business and in yourself (I do believe that personal growth is essential if you want to develop your business so I make sure I keep developing myself as a person in parallel to my business).

The feeling is amazing! I don’t know how well I’ll do next month, or in the next six months, or next year. But what I do know is that if you are consistent, reflect in what you are doing and find the way to change things that don’t work, learn from others and have your best attitude: you’ll do whatever you decide to do!

With lots of love,

Laia

Motivational quote

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“If you are working on something that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. Your vision pulls you.” – Steve Jobs