My daily butterfly affirmations

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Today I was going to write about my new “challenge” of working from home but I came across this wonderful Butterfly Affirmation and decided to change topics.

Positivity is a must for me.

Positive self-talk and thinking is very important to keep a good mindset. Even when knowing this, we sometimes let our thoughts switch our mood, change our attitude, etc. My mum always tells me: “Laia, remember that you are not your thoughts”. So if we are not our thoughts, what are we? Well, this is something many people asks themselves and I think the answer is deep inside. I read somewhere in the Internet: “you are not your thoughts or words; you are the place where your thoughts and words come from. You are the place where this question “who am I?” comes from.” Leaving you here for some self-reflection…

So, our thoughts are not real then – everything going on in my mind (thoughts, feelings, sensations and everything I am aware of) is in fact happening only in my private internal world. What makes a thought feel real is the attention we bring to it. Sometimes, we focus on a thought so much that we make it into a solid thing and relate to it as if it is an event happening in the world somewhere.

What do you think would happen if we monitor our thoughts so we stop our negative ones and we empower our positive ones? When we manage to “re-direct” our thoughts towards a positive path (via meditation, awareness or any other technique), I can assure you your inner world changes. Mine did.

That’s the reason why I always try to check on my positive attitude during the day, do my moment of gratitude in the morning and night, do my positive affirmations every morning – and now, read my butterfly affirmations every day. Today I got this one: Today everything is unfolding perfectly, accordingly to a greater plan. It made my day. Because positivity boosts have the power to keep you on track and happy with your inner self, no matter what happens in the outside.

I know, it’s easier said than done but hey, no one said that it was going to be easy! So just keep trying.

How can we practice positivity and optimism every day? Here’s some ideas:

  • Guiding your energy through positive thinking so you attract positive energy.
  • Connect with yourself on your own way. For me is meditation or through my inner reflections, for example.
  • Practice visualisation. I do this every morning – visualising where you want to be is very powerful. Remember – visualisation is not enough to make things happen though, you then need to take action and the steps towards what you want to achieve.
  • Slow down in order to move forward. Slowing down is a choice that can lead to greater appreciation for life and a greater level of happiness. It’s quite hard in the current western world but just trying it can make a huge change.
  • Read and watch books and movies with inspiring stories. Also, take the time to journal (very good to release stress) and write down your positive affirmations.
  • Be kind to yourself and practice love every day, towards yourself and others.
  • Practice gratitude and focus on the positive.

I encourage you to practice positivity and optimism, to surround yourself of people who empowers you and has plenty of good energy/vibes, to monitor your thoughts to make sure they don’t lead you in the wrong way.

With lots of love,

Laia

The importance of practicing positive habits

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“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, it’s not an act but a habit” – Aristotle

Hi everyone! Hope you are having an amazing week! Today I’d like to reflect on my daily habits and the importance of practicing positive ones.

I’ve always considered myself a consistent person: if I decide to do something, I’ll do it no matter what. But if I reflect back, actually, I’ve not been as consistent as I’d like with my healthy habits. For example, for years I tied yoga and meditation but as I couldn’t focus during my practice, I easily gave up. Or reading, which I love – life gets busy and I stop it. Or being grateful – days pass by, life gets busy and I just stopped expressing gratitude for all the good things I have in my life.

Let me tell you a story. A year ago I found my current yoga studio and decided to do things differently. First, I did a beginners course and sfterwards I started going to classes once a week. It was really good but you don’t get the huge benefits that yoga practice offers by just attending a class a week. Over six months ago I made the decision to attend yoga classes a minimum of three times a week and try meditation, this time seriously (I had tried it and gave up plenty of times). I made the commitment to read a meditation book, Mindfulness for Women from Vidyamala Burch, and take it as a five week course. During this time I was determined to follow all the exercises and tasks the book gives you as homework. If I couldn’t meditate after the five weeks, then I could say meditation wasn’t for me. I started the book and my daily meditation, just 10 minute guided ones, and after a couple of weeks of consistently meditating every day (plus my yoga classes) I started feeling an amazing change. The inner peace and contentment I felt (and currently feel) was wonderful so I decided to make yoga and meditation a priority in my life and both activities became one of my positive daily habits I’m not willing to give up. The change in my soul and body was amazing: the way how I cope with things, the inner contentment, being less reactive, being more present, etc. My body also changed for the best. It really improved my quality life and it’s the reason why I highly recommend it, event for those (who like me) think that they have a very busy mind to meditate (mine is still very busy!).

Few months after starting meditation I jumped into a new adventure (that came with lots of challenges) as an Independent Consultant with an amazing health and wellness brand. I knew through other consultants that the organisation highly supports personal growth, but I was amazed when I experienced the company’s philosophy to fully support and empower their consultants through personal development as the way to success in their business. They also connected me with the importance of my morning routines and started to learn about the importance of good habits in your daily life.

I guess I already knew it -someone told me time ago- but I never digested it. Now I have consciously (and consistently) incorporated positive daily habits in my life so they can be my autopilot on the path to greatness. If I’m honest, it’s not always easy and I can sometimes go off track as life gets in the way, but my healthy dairy routines have totally enriched my life.

Let me share with you some of my daily habits, some of them very recent:

  • Wake up early to do my Personal Power Hour:
    • 10 minutes of meditation
    • 10 minutes of visualisation, gratitude and positive affirmations
    • Reading at least for 30 minutes in the morning
  • Make my bed. You may think this is silly, however, as Admiral McRaven said: “Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that little things in life matter. If you can’t do little things right, you will never do the big things right”. I’m very grateful to my mum who since I was a little kid got me into the habit to make my bed every morning!
  • Smile to people as much as I can
  • Eat healthy and clean
  • Yoga or other kind of exercise: boxing, fitness class or a walk around a park
  • Focus on my goals and take action steps towards them
  • Check on my attitude through the day and make sure it’s excellent
  • Express gratitude during the day and before going to bed
  • Work in progress – Lead my life by four principles to practice in order to create love and happiness:
    • Be impeccable with your words
    • Don’t take anything personally
    • Don’t make assumptions
    • Always do your best
  • Reading as much as I can
  • Practicing mindfulness before going to bed and have a moment of gratitude
  • Journaling

Here is the thing: positive habits lead you to being successful, in your personal and professional life. They will always have a positive impact, and in lots of cases, a life-changing one – which is grand!

In order to implement new positive habits I also had to look into my negative habits to swap them. For example, I had some bad habits such as being hard to let things go, being inpatient and ungrateful, beating myself up, etc. to name just a few. All these bad habits don’t serve me and don’t make any good to my wellbeing. This is the reason why I’m extremely grateful to my partner and every person who has helped me to fit my new positive habits in my busy schedule.

I also have to admit that being consistent with good habits is challenging. Sometimes life gets in the way and I go off track. However, I now try not to beat myself up. Instead, I try to do better and reconnect with my positive habits and vision to break the bad ones.

It’s all a life experience full of growth, which I love. I’m in love with my new inner calm, my new contentment and my continuous growth. Are you willing to share what are those positive habits that change your life for the best every day?

With lots of love,

Laia x

The energy you surround yourself with

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“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

Today I’d like to share with you a recent experience that reminded me of the importance of who you surround yourself with.

Not long ago I was dealing with high stress levels and a work environment that wasn’t ideal as I felt too much negativity around me. As circumstances changed, things improved and once I moved on (left the job) I started feeling balanced again. Actually, I’ve been feeling better than ever since the year started: I left the corporate world full time, started my healthy living program and my energy levels went up, I started my own venture, I’m about to get married, etc. I’m feeling balanced and content so couldn’t ask for more!

We have also had family visiting us which is always lovely. Yes, it can be challenging as your routines change and you lose your own space for few days but it’s still great, you just need to do a small adjustment for a little while. This time we had a new guest from outside the family that we didn’t know and I was looking forward to it. However, as soon as I met her I could feel like someone was taking all my energy. After the first day I was exhausted and my energy levels considerably dropped. I’m sure she is doing the best she can to adjust to her partner’s family but it didn’t feel right at all. We were all exhausted after few days travelling together and I ended being sick as my body somatise all the negativity around me.

The bad news is that sometimes you can’t choose who you surround yourself with (family, for example), but the great news is that 99% of the time you make the choice! People have a huge impact on your life, therefore, with this in mind, you should think about the people you’re spending time with the same way you think about what you eat and how you’re exercising. This is also part of your healthy living plan.

Some people can be ‘parasites’. They suck out your energy and happiness, they spread their negative vibe around with all the consequences that this has for your own well-being. So… why would you surround yourself of those kind of people? It’s LOTS better to surround yourself by positive and energetic people! Ask yourself: what makes someone a “good” person to spend time with? And what are the benefits of surrounding yourself with these people?

The good people I’m looking for are positive, happy people that enrich my life. They can be family members, friends, co-workers or acquaintances I meet at networking events or at the train. They inspire me to be a better person, motivate me to achieve my goals, empower me to make the changes I need to succeed and cheer on my success. They have this amazing energy you feel attracted to straight away.

Why do I want to surround myself with this kind of people? Because my personal and professional success depends on it – success doesn’t occur in a vacuum and your personal improvement leading up to your success can be driven by the people you surround yourself with. I would actually say that one of the most important decisions we make in life is who we choose to be around.

If you look around, we live in a world that surrounds us with negativity. We get it regularly from media and other sources: co-workers, bosses, friends, family and even strangers – have you ever had someone you don’t know to have a go at you for no reason? No worries, it’s not about you, it’s about them. But they spread their negativity around. Then, it’s very important to learn how to filter out the negativity (I know, it’s not easy but you can do it!).

So, what to do? Walk away from those people in your life who drain you of your energy because they thrive on sharing their own negative vibe. Get as far away from them as you can. Why? Because it impacts your perspective with regard to your own life and -in addition- impacts your mental health.

Instead, why not to decide to invest your time in those relationships that give you joy, energy, empowerment and positive vibes. Like attracts like so if you give off positive vibes and confidence and you are genuine, you’ll attract the same into your life. This will lead you to the people that are right for you.

When you’re surrounded by good people, you’re surrounded by life. You’ll be less stressed and find more joy in your daily life. Make a commitment to start spending more time with the good people in your life and make it count.

“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.” – Karl Marx

With lots of love,

Laia x

The power of your morning routines

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“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it!” – Steve Maraboli

I have recently learned the importance of cultivating your mindset and having a morning routine to be ready for your day (I always say, to smash my day!) 🙂 If you investigate successful people’s mindset they all have something in common: focus and believe. How do you think they achieve this? Most of them use techniques such as meditation and mindfulness, visualisation and emotional intelligence.

I was introduced to meditation through my yoga studio and to mindfulness through my partner, who gave me the best gift I’ve ever had: a book called Mindfulness for women by Vidyamala Burch and Claire Irvin. I was finding very hard to meditate as I have a very busy mind (very very busy!) and always thought I couldn’t do it. A year ago I started going to yoga classes once or twice a week and loved it, however it wasn’t till I read the book mentioned above and started practising mindfulness and meditation every day (plus going to yoga classes 3-4 times a week) that I felt an amazing shift on the way I dealt with things.

Back then I was under a lot of stress due a demanding job and the bad news of a very close family member going through a serious illness. I needed to find the way to relax and find my inner peace and decided to give meditation a serious go through Vidyamala’s book – you can take it as a 4 week course where you do daily and weekly exercises designed to cultivate your body, mind and spirit. If I’m honest, the first couple of weeks I thought “this is bullshit” (forgive me the expression!). However, after a month doing my morning and evening 10 minute meditations and weekly exercises, OMG – I started feeling something I had not felt for long time: inner calm and peace. Even I was still under stress, the way I coped with it was so different. It was awesome! I found a way to calm my inner self and be just happy – another kind of happiness, a balanced one no matter what happened in my life, good or bad. Therefore I decided to keep going and never quit it – it was my medicine 🙂

And then, funny enough, when I decided to start my adventure as an independent consultant, I joined a brand which focuses in its people and they personal growth. I loved the fact that they believed on personal growth to reach business success therefore they invested on it. It was then when I was advised to do my personal power hour every morning. My first reaction was: “well, I already meditate every morning”. But this was going one step further than my regular meditation. My power hour now includes meditation, visualisation, positive affirmations, moment of gratitude and reading. Love the reading part – do you know why? Because reading is one of my hobbies and I had hardly practiced it for the last couple of years. This new morning routine helps me now read couple of books a month with all the knowledge it gives me and all the joy it causes me.

Something I’m currently working on is being emotional present so I can give my full attention to the moment or the person I’m with. It’s not an easy task to do this all the time – we have so many distraction starting by our mobile phones. So every time that I’m experimenting something new such as a trip to a new place, or I’m reading, or just checking my emails, I turn my phone off so I can stay present, connected and focused on whatever I’m doing. As I said, it’s not always easy (still work in progress for me), and even more difficult when you work with your phone. But, it’s a great exercise of self-awareness to put your phone away every time you notice yourself going away from your activity, conversation, etc.

Another area that is new for me is visualisation. The purpose of visualisation is to see the results you want to create, before they happen. Lots of sports people do it and works – You visualise where you want to get, build a plan and take action to get there. It is a powerful tool that when you master it, amazing things happen. However, don’t forget to take action, because it’s here where most people get stuck (another full article is needed to go through this topic).

To bring this article to an end, I encourage you to look into the techniques mentioned above and incorporate them into your daily life. In the same way we work out to have nice bodies, we need to work out for our mind and soul (chose what works for you but do it 🙂 ). I found in meditation, mindfulness and being emotionally present my journey companions – they have improved my life, they have truly done it. And visualisation is now the tool I use you pull everything together and start my day with a clear vision of who I am and where I am going. It’s powerful to do it first thing in the morning so you are ready to “smash” your day. Would you like to try it?

Feel free to comment below and tell us your own experiences. It’s amazing to see how different techniques work for different people in different ways.

With lots of love,

Laia x