Compassionate awareness

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“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

Everyone has heard at some point the phrase “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – haven’t you? Motivational speaker Jim Rohn, speaking about the law of averages, introduced this concept that now is noted everywhere.

Today I’d like to talk about this and how those people we choose to spend most of our time with impact our lives. It’s a reflection of what I’ve learned over the years – when I was young I used to choose quantity over quality. I used to be very social and know lots of people. But as I grew older, I leaned that it’s very important to pick well who we surround ourselves with, and started having difficulties finding real connections. Am I the only one?

Our relationships, financials, attitudes, professional success or anything else we want in our life, will tend to be close to the average of these conditions in the closest people we associate with. Why? Well, look around you. Do the conversations you have with those you surround yourself with focus on the present or past? Do they have a forward-looking, positive attitude or a blame and negative vibe? Ask yourself:

  • Are you surrounded by empowering people? Those who no matter what will find the positives and will find a way?
  • Are you surrounded by people that are draining you down? People that exhale negativity, blame and complain?

We should be asking ourselves the two questions above to measure if we are spending the right amount of time with the right people. And it’s not easy. It’s simple, but not easy. Why? Because most times, those people who are draining us down are close friends or family and it’s hard to drawn the line…

Actually, I used to be one of those people. I was disappointed with life and focused on the negatives instead of the positives which made me a “complainer”. That’s not good. It drains people down. I was lucky enough to gain awareness and see it, but hey, I do understand if I scared people off!

When I decided to include mindfulness and meditation into my daily life I was introduced to the two terms of compassion and awareness in order to practice it. It changed my life by giving me inner peace, something I can’t remember when was last time I experienced it.

It’s funny how very recently I came across the concept of compassionate awareness. Having compassion and having awareness and direction are not mutually exclusive. This concept allows me now to take care of myself, to careful think and discern who I surround myself with, even if that means to re-establish my whole circle. I don’t judge, I’m just honest with myself and ask the questions above. I ask myself whether or not the relationships I have in my life are empowering me, are the right support to my purpose and dreams (and even if I don’t have a clear purpose, they help me gain direction).

So next time you are spending time with a friend or family member and leave the catch up feeling exhausted, with low energy levels, try to reflect and answer the questions above. Then, there you have your answer.

I’m not saying you have to cut someone from your life, but draining relationships don’t deserve quality time – at least from my point of view, that doesn’t have to agree with everyone else of course. There are people with whom you can spend five minutes, but not three hours. There are people with whom you can spend three hours, but not two days.

Look after yourself and disassociate from those who drain you down. If you are working on your personal growth and development, focus on people who understand it and empower you.

The greatest gift you could ever give yourself, the wisest investment you could ever make is your own personal development – invest in yourself: improve, grow and be better every day. And choose well who are those people that walk along your side in your journey.

With lots of love,

Laia x

The power of your morning routines

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“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it!” – Steve Maraboli

I have recently learned the importance of cultivating your mindset and having a morning routine to be ready for your day (I always say, to smash my day!) 🙂 If you investigate successful people’s mindset they all have something in common: focus and believe. How do you think they achieve this? Most of them use techniques such as meditation and mindfulness, visualisation and emotional intelligence.

I was introduced to meditation through my yoga studio and to mindfulness through my partner, who gave me the best gift I’ve ever had: a book called Mindfulness for women by Vidyamala Burch and Claire Irvin. I was finding very hard to meditate as I have a very busy mind (very very busy!) and always thought I couldn’t do it. A year ago I started going to yoga classes once or twice a week and loved it, however it wasn’t till I read the book mentioned above and started practising mindfulness and meditation every day (plus going to yoga classes 3-4 times a week) that I felt an amazing shift on the way I dealt with things.

Back then I was under a lot of stress due a demanding job and the bad news of a very close family member going through a serious illness. I needed to find the way to relax and find my inner peace and decided to give meditation a serious go through Vidyamala’s book – you can take it as a 4 week course where you do daily and weekly exercises designed to cultivate your body, mind and spirit. If I’m honest, the first couple of weeks I thought “this is bullshit” (forgive me the expression!). However, after a month doing my morning and evening 10 minute meditations and weekly exercises, OMG – I started feeling something I had not felt for long time: inner calm and peace. Even I was still under stress, the way I coped with it was so different. It was awesome! I found a way to calm my inner self and be just happy – another kind of happiness, a balanced one no matter what happened in my life, good or bad. Therefore I decided to keep going and never quit it – it was my medicine 🙂

And then, funny enough, when I decided to start my adventure as an independent consultant, I joined a brand which focuses in its people and they personal growth. I loved the fact that they believed on personal growth to reach business success therefore they invested on it. It was then when I was advised to do my personal power hour every morning. My first reaction was: “well, I already meditate every morning”. But this was going one step further than my regular meditation. My power hour now includes meditation, visualisation, positive affirmations, moment of gratitude and reading. Love the reading part – do you know why? Because reading is one of my hobbies and I had hardly practiced it for the last couple of years. This new morning routine helps me now read couple of books a month with all the knowledge it gives me and all the joy it causes me.

Something I’m currently working on is being emotional present so I can give my full attention to the moment or the person I’m with. It’s not an easy task to do this all the time – we have so many distraction starting by our mobile phones. So every time that I’m experimenting something new such as a trip to a new place, or I’m reading, or just checking my emails, I turn my phone off so I can stay present, connected and focused on whatever I’m doing. As I said, it’s not always easy (still work in progress for me), and even more difficult when you work with your phone. But, it’s a great exercise of self-awareness to put your phone away every time you notice yourself going away from your activity, conversation, etc.

Another area that is new for me is visualisation. The purpose of visualisation is to see the results you want to create, before they happen. Lots of sports people do it and works – You visualise where you want to get, build a plan and take action to get there. It is a powerful tool that when you master it, amazing things happen. However, don’t forget to take action, because it’s here where most people get stuck (another full article is needed to go through this topic).

To bring this article to an end, I encourage you to look into the techniques mentioned above and incorporate them into your daily life. In the same way we work out to have nice bodies, we need to work out for our mind and soul (chose what works for you but do it 🙂 ). I found in meditation, mindfulness and being emotionally present my journey companions – they have improved my life, they have truly done it. And visualisation is now the tool I use you pull everything together and start my day with a clear vision of who I am and where I am going. It’s powerful to do it first thing in the morning so you are ready to “smash” your day. Would you like to try it?

Feel free to comment below and tell us your own experiences. It’s amazing to see how different techniques work for different people in different ways.

With lots of love,

Laia x

Embracing your greatness

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You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously. – Steve Maraboli

Hi everyone! Today I’m posting live from the Goal Coast, Australia. Yesterday I attended a whole day workshop with Joe Rangel from 2Evlove and I loved it – It was enlightening and inspiring. What an awesome way to end the conference I was attending!

What got me on-board straight away was his philosophy of changing the world one person at a time. He encouraged everyone to share what he taught us to empower others – that’s truly amazing! The same way you recommend a good restaurant or a movie, why not to do the same with personal growth? The information he provided was life changing for many and is worth spreading.

Joe spend the day navigating us through fast action tools to leave our comfort zone and grow, as a person and in our business. The understanding (or lack of it) of the importance of growing as a human been in order to be able to develop your business is just amazing. I wish traditional business would also invests on this.

The power of making a decision was one of the topics covered. I’m not talking here about saying to yourself “I’ve made decision of xxx”, but really MAKING a decision and TAKING ACTION. Having a plan A with no plan B, just going for our plan A no matter what – this kind of decision, the one you’ll action and make it happen. Actually, I’ve recently learned that is the lack of action that holds us back most of the time, including me… Would you agree?

Let me tell you a little story about this. I had never heard people talking about taking action as much as in the last 4 months so it’s something I’m currently working on. Last week I was at home and went to talk to my husband to be (OMG it sounds so weird to use the word husband! 😁) and asked him to do some brainstorming to think of new ideas to promote my business. I told him: “let’s think out of the box together”. He turned to me, gave me his full attention and told me (with lots of love): “Darling, you spend so much time doing your power hour, meditation, reading, writing your goals, etc. Instead of spending so much time on these things, invest your time in taking action.” At that moment my response was: “well, I can’t take action if I don’t know what to do so let’s think”. And we happily discussed few ideas on how to attract new leads. Afterwards, I realised that he was kind of right. I say “kind of” because I still think that is very important to invest time (every day) in daily routines that set you for your day, but equally important is to take action. So… He was right.

Another thing that caught my attention was something along those lines: don’t wait to be perfect to take action, aim to be excellent and learn along the way. I couldn’t agree more! I’m the perfectionist type and I know I need to move away from perfection… So another thing to work on – keep up the learning curve! 😊

Also, I had to accept that I’m not taking the action that I should to attract leads, for example, so more work for me to be done in that space… BUT it was so great to realise that! No excuses. No buts. No blaming. It’s up to you how successful you are in life, personally and professionally. So, what are you waiting for to take action?

We were taken through great information and activities to cover topics such as vulnerability, the statements we use, our self-talk, focus, vision, gratitude, mindfulness, self-believe, etc. It was just brilliant – the way Joe engaged with the audience was outstanding. He showed his vulnerability and allowed others to do the same. We all connect at the same level. It was a joy to see how useful his contribution was to no just one person but 100 people. He didn’t change the world one person at a time. He did 100 people at the a time. How amazing is that?

To finish off, something he said and will stay with me forever was something along these lines: You can write your own book right now. You can’t change the beginning but you CAN change the ending.

So I would like to ask you… What’s your ending going to be? 😁

With lots of love,

Laia

PS. Feel free to be in touch if you’d like to go deeper in any of the topics mentioned above 🙂

Welcome & Bienvenidos!

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Hola everyone! Welcome to my little retreat! 😊 My name is Laia and this is my first post – hope you enjoy it! Now, make yourselves comfortable and start reading…

Since I was in my early twenties I always wanted to write a blog but I never did it. I found all excuses I could: who would want to read it? What am I going to write about? No one is going to be interested… What will people think? English is not my first language so I can’t write a blog… And so on…

For years I didn’t realise what was stopping me from writing a blog, something I really wanted to do, something fun. I just parked the idea in the back of my mind and carried on with my (stressful) daily life.

For example, a year ago I attended one of the free seminar that the Speakers Institute organised in Auckland. I left the seminar feeling so empowered and inspired by Sam Cawthorn, its CEO and Founder, and his story that went home and bought a domain and created a website with my name. It was about time! And here I’m a year later about to publish my first blog post. What stopped me from doing it for nearly 12 months? Two things, I believe: fear and lack of taking action. Fear can trick and stop us from what we want to do. It was fear to leave my comfort zone, fear to be exposed. It made me feel stuck for long time.

Well, don’t misunderstand me: I still feel the fear. But I’ve decided not to let it stop me. The choices we make every day, the big and the little ones, determine whether or not we succeed in life, and it’s often the ones that seem more insignificant, the little ones we make every day, that make the difference.

So, here I am in a moment of huge change in my life and want to share it with all of you. And if along the way I can somehow bring some sort of love, fun, empowerment, support or motivation to you and your life, then, it’s been worth it 😊

How did the change happen? New Year… New resolutions. What a year 2017 was! It was an AWESOME year, can’t deny that! Looking back over 2017 there are so many things I’ve achieved! A year of finding myself, getting engaged, resiliency, family adversities, deciding what I want in my life (and what I DON’T want) and what I wish to create moving forward: be the designer of my life. So much growth and self-knowledge in just 12 months!

So… 2018 is a year of change and transformation. It’s full of new challenges, self-discovery in different areas and learning, something I can’t wait for! My start of the year has been very strong. I left my 8-5 corporate job and I’ve thrown myself into the new adventure of living a life by design, not by default. I’ve started a new venture on the side in the health and wellness industry and done a 30 day detox (clean eating, basically – and eliminating the often needed glass of wine 😊 ). My energy levels are better than ever, I feel calm and relaxed, happy and positive. Who doesn’t want to feel like this?

The tough part comes now deciding what comes next. Wait a moment… I know! Whatever I want to do! Because I believe we all can achieve and succeed in whatever we want to do. So I’m doing lots of personal growth work, looking for new opportunities that allow me to focus on my personal projects and enjoying every single moment of not knowing what’s coming next. Do you know why? Because I know that whatever I choose to do, I’ll be fine. Because I’m very excited to have the opportunity to change how I live my life for the best, to close doors that don’t serve me to allow those which do serve me to open. Because I focus on the opportunity, not in the adversity (in this case not having a job that gives me financial security, for example).

To finish this first post I have to say something… to get to this point took me over a year. Last year this time I left a big corporate feeling that it wasn’t for me. At the time I didn’t realise I needed such a huge change – I thought I just needed to change jobs. However, life is wise and put me through few situation and circumstances that made re-prioritise things and the way I live my life. So it wasn’t easy, it’s not something that happened from one day to another (and my husband to be Lucas knows well how hard it was! The patience he had was incredible!).

What I’m meaning here is that sometimes we need to go through the process of self-discovery before we can make the move. We need to be ready. So if hardship happens in your life, as it happens in everyone’s lives, don’t be scared – see it as an opportunity. Learning to address and overcome difficulty it’s all about learning and connecting with your inner self, finding the energy you need no matter what, and push forward in a positive direction.

So, my conclusion is: don’t let your fears hold you back, find what motivates you and do it! Believe in yourself and pursue a life of fulfilments and joy, whatever it means for you. Surround yourself by inspiring people, have a positive mindset and an excellent attitude. You can do whatever you want to do, you just need to truly believe it! Build your vision, share it and go for it! 🤩

To show accountability with all my statements above, here I am publishing my first post with no previous review from my partner or a friend – who cares if there are spelling or grammar mistakes. I wouldn’t have done this on my own a year ago. What matters though is that I’ve done my best to write it and share my story with you. I’ve opened my heart and taken action. And although (of course) I want to improve my writing English, that’s not the main goal here.

Hope you enjoyed the reading! 😊 Feel free to send comments or feedback through, more than happy to connect with you all!

Lots of love,

Laia x