Friday reflections: Find what works for you

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Just do what works for you, because there will always be someone who think differently… – Michelle Obama

Do you know what works and what doesn’t work for you? If you do, just do it.

Going through my personal development journey I read, listen to audios, talk to people, etc. to enrich myself and learn from others. I love learning different tools, techniques, etc. to improve every day, for myself and those who surround me. The issue is that I’m the perfectionist type (I know, never aim for perfection, aim for excellence! It is work in progress). I learn something new that it works for others, and if I think that it’d benefit me, I strictly implement it in my life.

I thought that was ok as you are told that consistency and discipline are key to success, so I wasn’t going to do less. What I’ve learnt recently is that not everything works for you and that sticking to things because you “have to” isn’t always right. Flexibility can also be a great thing to incorporate in your life.

I’m 28 weeks pregnant and I feel better than ever! I feel calm, relax, with huge inner peace. It has a great positive impact in my life: myself, my relationships, how I deal with things, my growing baby and so on. Reflecting on what has changed since months ago, I realised that the reason why I feel this way is because I’ve allowed myself to be flexible: stop being so tough on myself, change my morning routines and do what I feel like doing.

I was kind of obsessed with my morning routines actually: get up very early, meditate, read a personal development book for 30 minutes, review your goals, visualise your dreams – all before going to work. All of this is great but when you start doing it because you have to, not because you want to, you stop enjoying it along the way.

Because of my pregnancy, I’m slightly more tired and sometimes I don’t have a good night sleep. So I decided that for my last few months of pregnancy I was going to allow myself to rest and enjoy instead of being tired and stressed for the amount of things that I always had in my to do list. So I started getting up 30 minutes or an hour later, replacing my meditation for some mindful breathing while in bed or while doing few minutes of yoga exercises, leaving my reading for another moment of the day (normally in the evening), etc. And voila, I started enjoying more my mornings which was a great start of the day! I still like having my moment of gratitude in the morning (and night) where I can set my mindset and my intention for the day, but don’t feel pressured if one morning I skip it because I’m in a rush – I can do that in the car on my way to work!

I’ve found another way to do things, a way that works beautifully well for me. Leaving my perfect and strict being and moving towards flexibility has just let me enjoy everything else in a healthier way. Of course I want to keep growing, having healthy routines and get better every day, but sometimes you just have to be gentle to yourself and let you enjoy the little things. At least, it worked for me.

Would you like to share what works for you?

With lots of love,

Laia x

Friday reflections…

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“You can’t change the past. You can change the future. would you rather to be influenced by something you can’t change or by something you can?” Jeff Olsen

I’ve not been writing a lot recently, life can sometimes get on the way! But the positive side is that the last couple of months have been life changing so now I have more to share!

I’m currently reading a book called The Slight Edge by Jeff Olsen. The content is not new for me but it’s great to be reminded of how important are those little things, easy to do (and also easy not to do), that if you consistently do them will drive you to success. At some point during my reading I stopped to reflect and I realised how many things I’ve achieved by consistently working little by little towards something. And suddenly, I’ve just realised that I’ve turned my life towards everything I wanted in 2 years!

How have I done it? I think it has happened by believing it was possible and being truthful to what I wanted, keeping up good habits and consistently working towards my better self. I guess you want to know what has happened? So, in two years I’ve built an amazing relationship with someone that loves and respects me for who I’m, we got married, we are going to be parents, and we are about to buy our first home! Besides that, we both have started our own professional projects and are well on track. How cool is that?!

I know it’s not just a result of two years’ work, but I’ve not seen the results till now and the last two years have been the scenario of all changes. For example, I always wanted to own my own house. But it was impossible for me to see myself with enough savings for the deposit of a house. However, I carried on saving little by little every month and they grew. I also found an amazing life partner when I was 33 – I always wanted someone like him but I wasn’t doing the right “things” to attract someone like him – I first had to work on myself and grow as a person. Now, both of us can see that brilliant future ahead when only two years ago it seemed very far away. That is magic!

Sometimes we oversee great achievements like these. Why? Because we focus on what we don’t have instead of in what we do have. For this reason, last year I started my daily good habits to grow personally and professionally and rise my awareness. Sometimes, it was tough to keep going as I couldn’t see the results straight away, but it’s been worth it every second!

So, this is not a post to show you all how well I’m doing – myself, like everyone, face daily challenges. This is just a reminder of how the simple things you do every day (easy to do and also easy not to do), the things that don’t look like they matter, do matter. And making the choice to do those things, no matter what, is what makes the difference.

Forget luck – you create your own luck! For years I was focusing on awaiting for my good luck to come that I did nothing to create it. And of course nothing happened! Nothing happened till I took the reins of my life and I invested in myself, my life and the direction I wanted it to take.

So, now that my pregnancy sicknesses are starting to improve I hope to be back writing down my daily learnings, experiences and things that motivate me – I’m sure I’ll get lots of them through this new episode in my (our) lives! It’s beautiful and at the same time very scary, so a great opportunity to keep growing and being my better self with whatever challenge is in front of me.

With lots of love,

Laia x

Qualities that will make you a winner

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“Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.” – Chris Grosser

When it comes to life (and business) we sometimes don’t understand why some people are successful and others aren’t (we aren’t). We compare, blame, and even associate luck to our success or failures.

For long time I felt that I had lots of thing to offer, a huge potential inside me that I wasn’t using. Therefore, I was feeling unfulfilled. I used to blame others, my past experiences, my bad luck, etc. I was focusing on the negatives instead of the positives – and let me remind you that all experiences have their positives: my past experiences took me where I am today, helped me to grow every day, as a person and as a professional. We ALL have the potential to do whatever we want, this means that we all can make our dreams happen. However, sitting on our couch watching TV is not going to make a shift. We need to take control of our life and take action for it to happen. We need to have a clear WHY, a purpose, that drives us towards our goals. And we need to want to make the change.

We all have what we need to succeed inside. We do have to develop it in order to get there though. We do have to be willing to grow as a person in order to develop ourselves into a winner, in life and business.

Nothing worthwhile is easy – isn’t it? Have you ever wondered what is required to take yourself to the next level? I actually have. And what I realised is that the starting point is making a choice. Success is a choice. Winning is a choice. If you want to separate yourself from the rest, you just have to make choice.

I’m going to share with you three qualities I believe can take you wherever you want to go:

  • Believe: believe in yourself, in what you are doing and why you are doing it. Have a crystal clear WHY and believe that you can do whatever it takes for the right reasons.
  • Commitment: be committed to what you do no matter what. Do what it needs to be done, even when you don’t feel like to. Be discipline with your actions, with your goals, with your MINDSET and ownership, take responsibility. Be committed and discipline in gratitude and practice it every day.
  • Attitude: have an excellent attitude and attract excellent things. Make sure you set your attitude for the day every morning and check on it along the day.

Some more I’ve been taken through recently that I do believe play an important role in our success are:

  • Be passionate and fall in love with what you do every day.
  • Make a difference in other people’s lives.
  • Respect: yourself, those who surround you and what you have in front of you.
  • Practice no matter how good you are at something and put things on perspective.
  • Have the courage to give 100% even when things feel off.
  • Leadership: know your why and empower others, inspire those who surround you.
  • Be focused, take ownership and responsibility – no excuses.
  • Bounce back: be resilient, let things go and move forward.
  • Visualisation: visualise your future before it happens and take action to make it occurs.

I guess we already know most of those things, but sometimes we need to remind ourselves what requires to build the life we truly desire and deserve. Don’t be scared to dream big. Do it and take the required steps to make it happen – take action! Leave your comfort zone and find the way. As the say goes: “when there is a will, there is a way”.

So, what’s your dream? And how are you going to make it a reality?

Treat every single day with gratitude and love!

With lots of love,

Laia