Friday reflections…

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“You can’t change the past. You can change the future. would you rather to be influenced by something you can’t change or by something you can?” Jeff Olsen

I’ve not been writing a lot recently, life can sometimes get on the way! But the positive side is that the last couple of months have been life changing so now I have more to share!

I’m currently reading a book called The Slight Edge by Jeff Olsen. The content is not new for me but it’s great to be reminded of how important are those little things, easy to do (and also easy not to do), that if you consistently do them will drive you to success. At some point during my reading I stopped to reflect and I realised how many things I’ve achieved by consistently working little by little towards something. And suddenly, I’ve just realised that I’ve turned my life towards everything I wanted in 2 years!

How have I done it? I think it has happened by believing it was possible and being truthful to what I wanted, keeping up good habits and consistently working towards my better self. I guess you want to know what has happened? So, in two years I’ve built an amazing relationship with someone that loves and respects me for who I’m, we got married, we are going to be parents, and we are about to buy our first home! Besides that, we both have started our own professional projects and are well on track. How cool is that?!

I know it’s not just a result of two years’ work, but I’ve not seen the results till now and the last two years have been the scenario of all changes. For example, I always wanted to own my own house. But it was impossible for me to see myself with enough savings for the deposit of a house. However, I carried on saving little by little every month and they grew. I also found an amazing life partner when I was 33 – I always wanted someone like him but I wasn’t doing the right “things” to attract someone like him – I first had to work on myself and grow as a person. Now, both of us can see that brilliant future ahead when only two years ago it seemed very far away. That is magic!

Sometimes we oversee great achievements like these. Why? Because we focus on what we don’t have instead of in what we do have. For this reason, last year I started my daily good habits to grow personally and professionally and rise my awareness. Sometimes, it was tough to keep going as I couldn’t see the results straight away, but it’s been worth it every second!

So, this is not a post to show you all how well I’m doing – myself, like everyone, face daily challenges. This is just a reminder of how the simple things you do every day (easy to do and also easy not to do), the things that don’t look like they matter, do matter. And making the choice to do those things, no matter what, is what makes the difference.

Forget luck – you create your own luck! For years I was focusing on awaiting for my good luck to come that I did nothing to create it. And of course nothing happened! Nothing happened till I took the reins of my life and I invested in myself, my life and the direction I wanted it to take.

So, now that my pregnancy sicknesses are starting to improve I hope to be back writing down my daily learnings, experiences and things that motivate me – I’m sure I’ll get lots of them through this new episode in my (our) lives! It’s beautiful and at the same time very scary, so a great opportunity to keep growing and being my better self with whatever challenge is in front of me.

With lots of love,

Laia x

Qualities that will make you a winner

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“Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.” – Chris Grosser

When it comes to life (and business) we sometimes don’t understand why some people are successful and others aren’t (we aren’t). We compare, blame, and even associate luck to our success or failures.

For long time I felt that I had lots of thing to offer, a huge potential inside me that I wasn’t using. Therefore, I was feeling unfulfilled. I used to blame others, my past experiences, my bad luck, etc. I was focusing on the negatives instead of the positives – and let me remind you that all experiences have their positives: my past experiences took me where I am today, helped me to grow every day, as a person and as a professional. We ALL have the potential to do whatever we want, this means that we all can make our dreams happen. However, sitting on our couch watching TV is not going to make a shift. We need to take control of our life and take action for it to happen. We need to have a clear WHY, a purpose, that drives us towards our goals. And we need to want to make the change.

We all have what we need to succeed inside. We do have to develop it in order to get there though. We do have to be willing to grow as a person in order to develop ourselves into a winner, in life and business.

Nothing worthwhile is easy – isn’t it? Have you ever wondered what is required to take yourself to the next level? I actually have. And what I realised is that the starting point is making a choice. Success is a choice. Winning is a choice. If you want to separate yourself from the rest, you just have to make choice.

I’m going to share with you three qualities I believe can take you wherever you want to go:

  • Believe: believe in yourself, in what you are doing and why you are doing it. Have a crystal clear WHY and believe that you can do whatever it takes for the right reasons.
  • Commitment: be committed to what you do no matter what. Do what it needs to be done, even when you don’t feel like to. Be discipline with your actions, with your goals, with your MINDSET and ownership, take responsibility. Be committed and discipline in gratitude and practice it every day.
  • Attitude: have an excellent attitude and attract excellent things. Make sure you set your attitude for the day every morning and check on it along the day.

Some more I’ve been taken through recently that I do believe play an important role in our success are:

  • Be passionate and fall in love with what you do every day.
  • Make a difference in other people’s lives.
  • Respect: yourself, those who surround you and what you have in front of you.
  • Practice no matter how good you are at something and put things on perspective.
  • Have the courage to give 100% even when things feel off.
  • Leadership: know your why and empower others, inspire those who surround you.
  • Be focused, take ownership and responsibility – no excuses.
  • Bounce back: be resilient, let things go and move forward.
  • Visualisation: visualise your future before it happens and take action to make it occurs.

I guess we already know most of those things, but sometimes we need to remind ourselves what requires to build the life we truly desire and deserve. Don’t be scared to dream big. Do it and take the required steps to make it happen – take action! Leave your comfort zone and find the way. As the say goes: “when there is a will, there is a way”.

So, what’s your dream? And how are you going to make it a reality?

Treat every single day with gratitude and love!

With lots of love,

Laia

Motivational quote

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“If you are working on something that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. Your vision pulls you.” – Steve Jobs

 

The energy you surround yourself with

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“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

Today I’d like to share with you a recent experience that reminded me of the importance of who you surround yourself with.

Not long ago I was dealing with high stress levels and a work environment that wasn’t ideal as I felt too much negativity around me. As circumstances changed, things improved and once I moved on (left the job) I started feeling balanced again. Actually, I’ve been feeling better than ever since the year started: I left the corporate world full time, started my healthy living program and my energy levels went up, I started my own venture, I’m about to get married, etc. I’m feeling balanced and content so couldn’t ask for more!

We have also had family visiting us which is always lovely. Yes, it can be challenging as your routines change and you lose your own space for few days but it’s still great, you just need to do a small adjustment for a little while. This time we had a new guest from outside the family that we didn’t know and I was looking forward to it. However, as soon as I met her I could feel like someone was taking all my energy. After the first day I was exhausted and my energy levels considerably dropped. I’m sure she is doing the best she can to adjust to her partner’s family but it didn’t feel right at all. We were all exhausted after few days travelling together and I ended being sick as my body somatise all the negativity around me.

The bad news is that sometimes you can’t choose who you surround yourself with (family, for example), but the great news is that 99% of the time you make the choice! People have a huge impact on your life, therefore, with this in mind, you should think about the people you’re spending time with the same way you think about what you eat and how you’re exercising. This is also part of your healthy living plan.

Some people can be ‘parasites’. They suck out your energy and happiness, they spread their negative vibe around with all the consequences that this has for your own well-being. So… why would you surround yourself of those kind of people? It’s LOTS better to surround yourself by positive and energetic people! Ask yourself: what makes someone a “good” person to spend time with? And what are the benefits of surrounding yourself with these people?

The good people I’m looking for are positive, happy people that enrich my life. They can be family members, friends, co-workers or acquaintances I meet at networking events or at the train. They inspire me to be a better person, motivate me to achieve my goals, empower me to make the changes I need to succeed and cheer on my success. They have this amazing energy you feel attracted to straight away.

Why do I want to surround myself with this kind of people? Because my personal and professional success depends on it – success doesn’t occur in a vacuum and your personal improvement leading up to your success can be driven by the people you surround yourself with. I would actually say that one of the most important decisions we make in life is who we choose to be around.

If you look around, we live in a world that surrounds us with negativity. We get it regularly from media and other sources: co-workers, bosses, friends, family and even strangers – have you ever had someone you don’t know to have a go at you for no reason? No worries, it’s not about you, it’s about them. But they spread their negativity around. Then, it’s very important to learn how to filter out the negativity (I know, it’s not easy but you can do it!).

So, what to do? Walk away from those people in your life who drain you of your energy because they thrive on sharing their own negative vibe. Get as far away from them as you can. Why? Because it impacts your perspective with regard to your own life and -in addition- impacts your mental health.

Instead, why not to decide to invest your time in those relationships that give you joy, energy, empowerment and positive vibes. Like attracts like so if you give off positive vibes and confidence and you are genuine, you’ll attract the same into your life. This will lead you to the people that are right for you.

When you’re surrounded by good people, you’re surrounded by life. You’ll be less stressed and find more joy in your daily life. Make a commitment to start spending more time with the good people in your life and make it count.

“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.” – Karl Marx

With lots of love,

Laia x