Friday reflections: Find what works for you

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Just do what works for you, because there will always be someone who think differently… – Michelle Obama

Do you know what works and what doesn’t work for you? If you do, just do it.

Going through my personal development journey I read, listen to audios, talk to people, etc. to enrich myself and learn from others. I love learning different tools, techniques, etc. to improve every day, for myself and those who surround me. The issue is that I’m the perfectionist type (I know, never aim for perfection, aim for excellence! It is work in progress). I learn something new that it works for others, and if I think that it’d benefit me, I strictly implement it in my life.

I thought that was ok as you are told that consistency and discipline are key to success, so I wasn’t going to do less. What I’ve learnt recently is that not everything works for you and that sticking to things because you “have to” isn’t always right. Flexibility can also be a great thing to incorporate in your life.

I’m 28 weeks pregnant and I feel better than ever! I feel calm, relax, with huge inner peace. It has a great positive impact in my life: myself, my relationships, how I deal with things, my growing baby and so on. Reflecting on what has changed since months ago, I realised that the reason why I feel this way is because I’ve allowed myself to be flexible: stop being so tough on myself, change my morning routines and do what I feel like doing.

I was kind of obsessed with my morning routines actually: get up very early, meditate, read a personal development book for 30 minutes, review your goals, visualise your dreams – all before going to work. All of this is great but when you start doing it because you have to, not because you want to, you stop enjoying it along the way.

Because of my pregnancy, I’m slightly more tired and sometimes I don’t have a good night sleep. So I decided that for my last few months of pregnancy I was going to allow myself to rest and enjoy instead of being tired and stressed for the amount of things that I always had in my to do list. So I started getting up 30 minutes or an hour later, replacing my meditation for some mindful breathing while in bed or while doing few minutes of yoga exercises, leaving my reading for another moment of the day (normally in the evening), etc. And voila, I started enjoying more my mornings which was a great start of the day! I still like having my moment of gratitude in the morning (and night) where I can set my mindset and my intention for the day, but don’t feel pressured if one morning I skip it because I’m in a rush – I can do that in the car on my way to work!

I’ve found another way to do things, a way that works beautifully well for me. Leaving my perfect and strict being and moving towards flexibility has just let me enjoy everything else in a healthier way. Of course I want to keep growing, having healthy routines and get better every day, but sometimes you just have to be gentle to yourself and let you enjoy the little things. At least, it worked for me.

Would you like to share what works for you?

With lots of love,

Laia x

My daily butterfly affirmations

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Today I was going to write about my new “challenge” of working from home but I came across this wonderful Butterfly Affirmation and decided to change topics.

Positivity is a must for me.

Positive self-talk and thinking is very important to keep a good mindset. Even when knowing this, we sometimes let our thoughts switch our mood, change our attitude, etc. My mum always tells me: “Laia, remember that you are not your thoughts”. So if we are not our thoughts, what are we? Well, this is something many people asks themselves and I think the answer is deep inside. I read somewhere in the Internet: “you are not your thoughts or words; you are the place where your thoughts and words come from. You are the place where this question “who am I?” comes from.” Leaving you here for some self-reflection…

So, our thoughts are not real then – everything going on in my mind (thoughts, feelings, sensations and everything I am aware of) is in fact happening only in my private internal world. What makes a thought feel real is the attention we bring to it. Sometimes, we focus on a thought so much that we make it into a solid thing and relate to it as if it is an event happening in the world somewhere.

What do you think would happen if we monitor our thoughts so we stop our negative ones and we empower our positive ones? When we manage to “re-direct” our thoughts towards a positive path (via meditation, awareness or any other technique), I can assure you your inner world changes. Mine did.

That’s the reason why I always try to check on my positive attitude during the day, do my moment of gratitude in the morning and night, do my positive affirmations every morning – and now, read my butterfly affirmations every day. Today I got this one: Today everything is unfolding perfectly, accordingly to a greater plan. It made my day. Because positivity boosts have the power to keep you on track and happy with your inner self, no matter what happens in the outside.

I know, it’s easier said than done but hey, no one said that it was going to be easy! So just keep trying.

How can we practice positivity and optimism every day? Here’s some ideas:

  • Guiding your energy through positive thinking so you attract positive energy.
  • Connect with yourself on your own way. For me is meditation or through my inner reflections, for example.
  • Practice visualisation. I do this every morning – visualising where you want to be is very powerful. Remember – visualisation is not enough to make things happen though, you then need to take action and the steps towards what you want to achieve.
  • Slow down in order to move forward. Slowing down is a choice that can lead to greater appreciation for life and a greater level of happiness. It’s quite hard in the current western world but just trying it can make a huge change.
  • Read and watch books and movies with inspiring stories. Also, take the time to journal (very good to release stress) and write down your positive affirmations.
  • Be kind to yourself and practice love every day, towards yourself and others.
  • Practice gratitude and focus on the positive.

I encourage you to practice positivity and optimism, to surround yourself of people who empowers you and has plenty of good energy/vibes, to monitor your thoughts to make sure they don’t lead you in the wrong way.

With lots of love,

Laia

Motivational quote

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“If you are working on something that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. Your vision pulls you.” – Steve Jobs

 

The energy you surround yourself with

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“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

Today I’d like to share with you a recent experience that reminded me of the importance of who you surround yourself with.

Not long ago I was dealing with high stress levels and a work environment that wasn’t ideal as I felt too much negativity around me. As circumstances changed, things improved and once I moved on (left the job) I started feeling balanced again. Actually, I’ve been feeling better than ever since the year started: I left the corporate world full time, started my healthy living program and my energy levels went up, I started my own venture, I’m about to get married, etc. I’m feeling balanced and content so couldn’t ask for more!

We have also had family visiting us which is always lovely. Yes, it can be challenging as your routines change and you lose your own space for few days but it’s still great, you just need to do a small adjustment for a little while. This time we had a new guest from outside the family that we didn’t know and I was looking forward to it. However, as soon as I met her I could feel like someone was taking all my energy. After the first day I was exhausted and my energy levels considerably dropped. I’m sure she is doing the best she can to adjust to her partner’s family but it didn’t feel right at all. We were all exhausted after few days travelling together and I ended being sick as my body somatise all the negativity around me.

The bad news is that sometimes you can’t choose who you surround yourself with (family, for example), but the great news is that 99% of the time you make the choice! People have a huge impact on your life, therefore, with this in mind, you should think about the people you’re spending time with the same way you think about what you eat and how you’re exercising. This is also part of your healthy living plan.

Some people can be ‘parasites’. They suck out your energy and happiness, they spread their negative vibe around with all the consequences that this has for your own well-being. So… why would you surround yourself of those kind of people? It’s LOTS better to surround yourself by positive and energetic people! Ask yourself: what makes someone a “good” person to spend time with? And what are the benefits of surrounding yourself with these people?

The good people I’m looking for are positive, happy people that enrich my life. They can be family members, friends, co-workers or acquaintances I meet at networking events or at the train. They inspire me to be a better person, motivate me to achieve my goals, empower me to make the changes I need to succeed and cheer on my success. They have this amazing energy you feel attracted to straight away.

Why do I want to surround myself with this kind of people? Because my personal and professional success depends on it – success doesn’t occur in a vacuum and your personal improvement leading up to your success can be driven by the people you surround yourself with. I would actually say that one of the most important decisions we make in life is who we choose to be around.

If you look around, we live in a world that surrounds us with negativity. We get it regularly from media and other sources: co-workers, bosses, friends, family and even strangers – have you ever had someone you don’t know to have a go at you for no reason? No worries, it’s not about you, it’s about them. But they spread their negativity around. Then, it’s very important to learn how to filter out the negativity (I know, it’s not easy but you can do it!).

So, what to do? Walk away from those people in your life who drain you of your energy because they thrive on sharing their own negative vibe. Get as far away from them as you can. Why? Because it impacts your perspective with regard to your own life and -in addition- impacts your mental health.

Instead, why not to decide to invest your time in those relationships that give you joy, energy, empowerment and positive vibes. Like attracts like so if you give off positive vibes and confidence and you are genuine, you’ll attract the same into your life. This will lead you to the people that are right for you.

When you’re surrounded by good people, you’re surrounded by life. You’ll be less stressed and find more joy in your daily life. Make a commitment to start spending more time with the good people in your life and make it count.

“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.” – Karl Marx

With lots of love,

Laia x