“People who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” – Rob Siltanen
“If you are working on something that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. Your vision pulls you.” – Steve Jobs
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn
Today I’d like to share with you a recent experience that reminded me of the importance of who you surround yourself with.
Not long ago I was dealing with high stress levels and a work environment that wasn’t ideal as I felt too much negativity around me. As circumstances changed, things improved and once I moved on (left the job) I started feeling balanced again. Actually, I’ve been feeling better than ever since the year started: I left the corporate world full time, started my healthy living program and my energy levels went up, I started my own venture, I’m about to get married, etc. I’m feeling balanced and content so couldn’t ask for more!
We have also had family visiting us which is always lovely. Yes, it can be challenging as your routines change and you lose your own space for few days but it’s still great, you just need to do a small adjustment for a little while. This time we had a new guest from outside the family that we didn’t know and I was looking forward to it. However, as soon as I met her I could feel like someone was taking all my energy. After the first day I was exhausted and my energy levels considerably dropped. I’m sure she is doing the best she can to adjust to her partner’s family but it didn’t feel right at all. We were all exhausted after few days travelling together and I ended being sick as my body somatise all the negativity around me.
The bad news is that sometimes you can’t choose who you surround yourself with (family, for example), but the great news is that 99% of the time you make the choice! People have a huge impact on your life, therefore, with this in mind, you should think about the people you’re spending time with the same way you think about what you eat and how you’re exercising. This is also part of your healthy living plan.
Some people can be ‘parasites’. They suck out your energy and happiness, they spread their negative vibe around with all the consequences that this has for your own well-being. So… why would you surround yourself of those kind of people? It’s LOTS better to surround yourself by positive and energetic people! Ask yourself: what makes someone a “good” person to spend time with? And what are the benefits of surrounding yourself with these people?
The good people I’m looking for are positive, happy people that enrich my life. They can be family members, friends, co-workers or acquaintances I meet at networking events or at the train. They inspire me to be a better person, motivate me to achieve my goals, empower me to make the changes I need to succeed and cheer on my success. They have this amazing energy you feel attracted to straight away.
Why do I want to surround myself with this kind of people? Because my personal and professional success depends on it – success doesn’t occur in a vacuum and your personal improvement leading up to your success can be driven by the people you surround yourself with. I would actually say that one of the most important decisions we make in life is who we choose to be around.
If you look around, we live in a world that surrounds us with negativity. We get it regularly from media and other sources: co-workers, bosses, friends, family and even strangers – have you ever had someone you don’t know to have a go at you for no reason? No worries, it’s not about you, it’s about them. But they spread their negativity around. Then, it’s very important to learn how to filter out the negativity (I know, it’s not easy but you can do it!).
So, what to do? Walk away from those people in your life who drain you of your energy because they thrive on sharing their own negative vibe. Get as far away from them as you can. Why? Because it impacts your perspective with regard to your own life and -in addition- impacts your mental health.
Instead, why not to decide to invest your time in those relationships that give you joy, energy, empowerment and positive vibes. Like attracts like so if you give off positive vibes and confidence and you are genuine, you’ll attract the same into your life. This will lead you to the people that are right for you.
When you’re surrounded by good people, you’re surrounded by life. You’ll be less stressed and find more joy in your daily life. Make a commitment to start spending more time with the good people in your life and make it count.
“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.” – Karl Marx
With lots of love,
“To change your life, change your habits”
We live surrounded by information. Every person we know, social media and other communication channel have some advice to give us: keep active, do exercise, eat healthy, meditate, be positive, and so on. It never ends… it’s like the wonderful world of being a new mum. Everyone that surrounds you will have something to tell you about how to look after your baby or bring up your kids. And I truly know that all of them have the best of intentions, they want to help. But I also know that every person is different and what works for me might not work for you and vice versa.
When we decide to improve certain routines or daily habits (basically, when we decide to improve the way we live our life) we end up listening to too many people and might end up feeling overwhelmed. We sometimes try to do too much and stop enjoying along the process, which I’d say it’s not ideal.
This is how I was feeling a short time ago. Being in a moment of huge change in my life I was feeling excited, so the first thing I did when I decided to push myself to the next level was to surround myself with lots of information related to what I wanted to do next. I read, listen to podcasts, joined meet up groups, etc. In addition, social media now knows what you are interested in so kept putting in front of me lots of Facebook groups, webinars, workshops, etc. Many of which I happily jumped on to without realising what I was getting myself into.
Don’t get me wrong, every single group had something to offer and I loved them, but I ended up spending too much time on social media. I moved from hardly being on Facebook (just for holiday pictures posting and a little bit more) to using social media to empower my new venture. And then… all these other groups. My notifications started growing and I wanted to be on top of everything because I wanted to grow and learn. But at some point I realised it was just too much: every information channel has its own peculiarities and its own way to do things, and when you are like me (the perfectionist type) you want to be on top of everything and try every single technique you are taught.
Let’s be real – it’s impossible! I started feeling overwhelmed and didn’t want to spend so much time doing multiple things without being able to focus in one thing properly. Then, something clicked and I told myself: “let’s focus in doing less things right and make things easier for yourself”. And I started doing it and things started to shift (still work in progress though).
So I decided to focus on my wellness and those healthy habits that are non-negotiable to keep moving forward. My daily routines help me to feel structured and fulfilled knowing that I do the best I can every day. Some of my daily routines are:
- Surround myself with positive and like-minded people
- Clean eating
- Get enough sleep
- Meditation and mindfulness
- Moment of gratitude
- Yoga classes
- Walking 10,000 steps every day (preferably walking in One Tree Hill park)
- Colouring (slowly going back into it)
- Checking on my mindset and attitude
- High intensity exercise once or twice a week in addition to yoga and walking
- Working hard and smart
- Petting my cat Oskar
- Be loving to my partner and friends
- Be present
- Be gentle to your body
Others that I find awesome to incorporate as a wellness daily habits are:
- Laugh: the mere action of laughing releases endorphins
- Get some sun
- Invest 30 minutes doing something you enjoy and find relaxing
- Talk to someone you love
- Leave your comfort zone daily
- Enjoy a sunset or sunrise
- Make social connections
- Drink water
- Smile, etc.
What’s important is that you find what works for you and incorporate it in your daily life. For my sister-in-law cooking is her relaxing activity, for me is reading. What works for you? Let’s keep up the good habits and be gentle to our souls!
With lots of love,
“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it!” – Steve Maraboli
I have recently learned the importance of cultivating your mindset and having a morning routine to be ready for your day (I always say, to smash my day!) 🙂 If you investigate successful people’s mindset they all have something in common: focus and believe. How do you think they achieve this? Most of them use techniques such as meditation and mindfulness, visualisation and emotional intelligence.
I was introduced to meditation through my yoga studio and to mindfulness through my partner, who gave me the best gift I’ve ever had: a book called Mindfulness for women by Vidyamala Burch and Claire Irvin. I was finding very hard to meditate as I have a very busy mind (very very busy!) and always thought I couldn’t do it. A year ago I started going to yoga classes once or twice a week and loved it, however it wasn’t till I read the book mentioned above and started practising mindfulness and meditation every day (plus going to yoga classes 3-4 times a week) that I felt an amazing shift on the way I dealt with things.
Back then I was under a lot of stress due a demanding job and the bad news of a very close family member going through a serious illness. I needed to find the way to relax and find my inner peace and decided to give meditation a serious go through Vidyamala’s book – you can take it as a 4 week course where you do daily and weekly exercises designed to cultivate your body, mind and spirit. If I’m honest, the first couple of weeks I thought “this is bullshit” (forgive me the expression!). However, after a month doing my morning and evening 10 minute meditations and weekly exercises, OMG – I started feeling something I had not felt for long time: inner calm and peace. Even I was still under stress, the way I coped with it was so different. It was awesome! I found a way to calm my inner self and be just happy – another kind of happiness, a balanced one no matter what happened in my life, good or bad. Therefore I decided to keep going and never quit it – it was my medicine 🙂
And then, funny enough, when I decided to start my adventure as an independent consultant, I joined a brand which focuses in its people and they personal growth. I loved the fact that they believed on personal growth to reach business success therefore they invested on it. It was then when I was advised to do my personal power hour every morning. My first reaction was: “well, I already meditate every morning”. But this was going one step further than my regular meditation. My power hour now includes meditation, visualisation, positive affirmations, moment of gratitude and reading. Love the reading part – do you know why? Because reading is one of my hobbies and I had hardly practiced it for the last couple of years. This new morning routine helps me now read couple of books a month with all the knowledge it gives me and all the joy it causes me.
Something I’m currently working on is being emotional present so I can give my full attention to the moment or the person I’m with. It’s not an easy task to do this all the time – we have so many distraction starting by our mobile phones. So every time that I’m experimenting something new such as a trip to a new place, or I’m reading, or just checking my emails, I turn my phone off so I can stay present, connected and focused on whatever I’m doing. As I said, it’s not always easy (still work in progress for me), and even more difficult when you work with your phone. But, it’s a great exercise of self-awareness to put your phone away every time you notice yourself going away from your activity, conversation, etc.
Another area that is new for me is visualisation. The purpose of visualisation is to see the results you want to create, before they happen. Lots of sports people do it and works – You visualise where you want to get, build a plan and take action to get there. It is a powerful tool that when you master it, amazing things happen. However, don’t forget to take action, because it’s here where most people get stuck (another full article is needed to go through this topic).
To bring this article to an end, I encourage you to look into the techniques mentioned above and incorporate them into your daily life. In the same way we work out to have nice bodies, we need to work out for our mind and soul (chose what works for you but do it 🙂 ). I found in meditation, mindfulness and being emotionally present my journey companions – they have improved my life, they have truly done it. And visualisation is now the tool I use you pull everything together and start my day with a clear vision of who I am and where I am going. It’s powerful to do it first thing in the morning so you are ready to “smash” your day. Would you like to try it?
Feel free to comment below and tell us your own experiences. It’s amazing to see how different techniques work for different people in different ways.
With lots of love,
You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously. – Steve Maraboli
Hi everyone! Today I’m posting live from the Goal Coast, Australia. Yesterday I attended a whole day workshop with Joe Rangel from 2Evlove and I loved it – It was enlightening and inspiring. What an awesome way to end the conference I was attending!
What got me on-board straight away was his philosophy of changing the world one person at a time. He encouraged everyone to share what he taught us to empower others – that’s truly amazing! The same way you recommend a good restaurant or a movie, why not to do the same with personal growth? The information he provided was life changing for many and is worth spreading.
Joe spend the day navigating us through fast action tools to leave our comfort zone and grow, as a person and in our business. The understanding (or lack of it) of the importance of growing as a human been in order to be able to develop your business is just amazing. I wish traditional business would also invests on this.
The power of making a decision was one of the topics covered. I’m not talking here about saying to yourself “I’ve made decision of xxx”, but really MAKING a decision and TAKING ACTION. Having a plan A with no plan B, just going for our plan A no matter what – this kind of decision, the one you’ll action and make it happen. Actually, I’ve recently learned that is the lack of action that holds us back most of the time, including me… Would you agree?
Let me tell you a little story about this. I had never heard people talking about taking action as much as in the last 4 months so it’s something I’m currently working on. Last week I was at home and went to talk to my husband to be (OMG it sounds so weird to use the word husband! 😁) and asked him to do some brainstorming to think of new ideas to promote my business. I told him: “let’s think out of the box together”. He turned to me, gave me his full attention and told me (with lots of love): “Darling, you spend so much time doing your power hour, meditation, reading, writing your goals, etc. Instead of spending so much time on these things, invest your time in taking action.” At that moment my response was: “well, I can’t take action if I don’t know what to do so let’s think”. And we happily discussed few ideas on how to attract new leads. Afterwards, I realised that he was kind of right. I say “kind of” because I still think that is very important to invest time (every day) in daily routines that set you for your day, but equally important is to take action. So… He was right.
Another thing that caught my attention was something along those lines: don’t wait to be perfect to take action, aim to be excellent and learn along the way. I couldn’t agree more! I’m the perfectionist type and I know I need to move away from perfection… So another thing to work on – keep up the learning curve! 😊
Also, I had to accept that I’m not taking the action that I should to attract leads, for example, so more work for me to be done in that space… BUT it was so great to realise that! No excuses. No buts. No blaming. It’s up to you how successful you are in life, personally and professionally. So, what are you waiting for to take action?
We were taken through great information and activities to cover topics such as vulnerability, the statements we use, our self-talk, focus, vision, gratitude, mindfulness, self-believe, etc. It was just brilliant – the way Joe engaged with the audience was outstanding. He showed his vulnerability and allowed others to do the same. We all connect at the same level. It was a joy to see how useful his contribution was to no just one person but 100 people. He didn’t change the world one person at a time. He did 100 people at the a time. How amazing is that?
To finish off, something he said and will stay with me forever was something along these lines: You can write your own book right now. You can’t change the beginning but you CAN change the ending.
So I would like to ask you… What’s your ending going to be? 😁
With lots of love,
PS. Feel free to be in touch if you’d like to go deeper in any of the topics mentioned above 🙂